Someone has a seizure: never put a spoon in their mouth

Someone near you suddenly stiffens, drops, and starts jerking. The room panics. Hands reach in to force the mouth open, hold the body still, push a shoe or onion under the nose. Stop — almost none of that helps, and some of it injures the person or you.

Here is the calm truth. A seizure is a sudden burst of abnormal electrical activity in the brain. Most convulsive seizures last only one to three minutes and stop on their own. You cannot speed that up. Your job is simply to keep the person safe until it passes.

Stay calm and note the time — knowing how long it lasts is the single most useful thing you can do.
Do NOT put anything in the mouth — no spoon, no finger, no cloth. People do not 'swallow the tongue'; this only breaks teeth and risks choking.
Do NOT hold them down — let the movements happen; restraining can cause injury.
Turn them on their side once you can, to keep the airway clear, and stay until they are fully awake.

This is general information, not medical advice. Call an ambulance or go to hospital if a seizure lasts more than five minutes, repeats, or it is the person's first one. Speak to a doctor about any seizure.

Think of the brain as millions of nerve cells passing tiny, orderly electrical signals to each other — that is how you move, think and feel. A seizure happens when a group of these cells suddenly fires together in a fast, disorganised burst. For a short while that electrical storm overrides normal control, and the body does whatever those misfiring areas command — stiffening, jerking, a blank stare, or a loss of awareness.

This is why a person having a convulsive seizure cannot 'stop' it by will, and why you cannot stop it either. The brain has to ride out the storm, which usually settles by itself in one to three minutes as the cells exhaust and reset.

When seizures happen again and again, unprovoked, the condition is called epilepsy. It is a brain condition — not a mental illness, not weakness of character, and absolutely not a curse or spirit. Causes vary: a past head injury, an old brain infection, a difficult birth, a structural difference, or often no clear cause at all.

After the jerking stops, the brain is tired. The person may be confused, drowsy, slow to speak or not remember the episode — this recovery stretch is called the postictal phase, and it can last minutes to an hour. They are not 'still possessed' or 'going mad'; they are simply a brain catching its breath.

You need not be a doctor to help well. These are the calm, simple steps taught worldwide. Do them in order and you keep the person far safer than any 'remedy' could.

Stay calm and note the time. Glance at a clock the moment it starts — if it crosses five minutes, that changes everything.

Clear the danger zone. Move away hard or sharp things — corners, glasses, hot tea. Make space; do not crowd around.

Cushion the head. Slide something soft underneath — a cloth, a bag, your hands — so the head does not strike the floor.

Do NOT hold them down. Let the movements run their course. Pinning the limbs can tear muscles or dislocate a joint.

Do NOT put anything in the mouth. No spoon, finger, cloth or water. It breaks teeth, blocks breathing and gets fingers bitten — the 'swallowing the tongue' fear is not real.

Turn them on their side. As the jerking eases, gently roll them onto one side so saliva drains and the airway stays clear. Loosen any tight collar.

Stay and reassure. Sit with them as they come round — speak softly, tell them they are safe, let them rest.

Call an ambulance if: it lasts over five minutes, a second seizure follows quickly, they do not wake or struggle to breathe, they got injured, it happened in water, it is a first seizure, or the person is pregnant or diabetic.

Myth 1 — Force a spoon, finger or cloth into the mouth so they don't swallow their tongue.

No one can swallow their tongue — it is anchored in place. Forcing an object in breaks teeth, blocks breathing, and gets the helper's fingers badly bitten. Keep the mouth alone; turning the person on their side is what protects the airway.

Myth 2 — Hold them down hard to stop the shaking.

You cannot stop a seizure by force, and restraining a convulsing body can tear muscles or pop a joint. Let the movements happen and clear the space around them instead.

Myth 3 — Make them smell a shoe, onion, or chillies to 'wake' them.

A seizure is an electrical storm in the brain; a smell does nothing to it. This wastes precious seconds you should spend timing it and keeping them safe.

Myth 4 — Epilepsy is madness, possession, or a curse.

Epilepsy is a brain condition, like asthma is a lung condition. It is not a mental illness, not 'paap', not a spirit, and it does not mean the person is weak or unlucky. With diagnosis and regular doctor-decided medicine, most people live full, ordinary lives.

Myth 5 — You can 'catch' epilepsy by touching them.

Epilepsy is not contagious — not by touch, saliva, sharing food or anything else. The only thing you risk by helping is doing a genuine good deed.

A few simple numbers turn panic into a plan. Costs below are rough India ranges and vary by city, lab and offers.

The numbers that matter

1–3 minuteshow long most convulsive seizures last before stopping on their own.
5 minutesthe alarm line. A seizure that crosses five minutes, or a second one right after, is a medical emergency called status epilepticus — call an ambulance.
First-ever seizurealways needs a doctor's check, even if it stopped quickly.
Postictal phaseconfusion and drowsiness afterwards can last minutes to about an hour; this is normal recovery.

Tests a doctor may advise (not a home checklist)

EEG (brain-wave test)roughly ₹1,500–4,000; records the brain's electrical patterns. Painless.
MRI of the brainroughly ₹3,000–9,000; looks for any structural cause.
Blood teststo check sugar, salts and other triggers; cost varies with the panel.

None of this is something to arrange or interpret yourself. The point of knowing it is to walk into the doctor's room calm and informed, not afraid. And one rule stands above all: epilepsy medicines are decided, adjusted and stopped only by a doctor — never start or stop them on your own, because suddenly stopping can bring the seizures roaring back.

Step back, and seizure first aid is rare knowledge that costs nothing, takes minutes to learn, and can change how a frightening moment ends. The lesson is almost the opposite of instinct: when a body convulses, the helpful thing is to do less with your hands and more with your calm — clear the space, cushion the head, time it, turn them on the side, and wait. The 'remedies' our grandparents passed down — the spoon, the shoe, the pinning down — come from love, but they break teeth and waste seconds.

What makes this story hopeful is that epilepsy itself is, for most people, a treatable medical condition — not a verdict, not a curse, not madness. Millions live full lives with the right diagnosis and steady medicine. The biggest harm many face is not the seizures but the stigma — the whispers, the shame, the families who hide it. Every person who learns the facts chips away at that.

The deeper point is that you need not be a doctor to be the right person in the room. You just need to understand that the seizure will likely pass on its own, that your job is safety not heroics, and when to call help.

So take the small first step today: read these steps once more, and share them with your family. The next time someone collapses, calm hands that know what to do — and what never to do — may be the kindest gift you give.

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